Ask for Help

Are you one of those individuals who can do it all by yourself? If so, congratulations.


Early in my life I used to be like you. Even when I participated in team sports, I felt it was up to me to ensure the team would win. Then one day I learned a very valuable lesson, that you have more power and influence when you receive help from others and, in turn, offer to help others. If you have read any of my other pontification, you have an inkling that I am a strong proponent of teamwork.

When would you profit from some else’s help? Is it finding a new job? Writing a book? Getting over a loss? Having a sensitive conversation with a co-worker? Moving to a new home? Help with dishes? Whether it is a major event or a simple task, it’s usually more fun and efficient when you have help. Different personality types feel very differently about asking for help.

You may fall into one of the following categories.
  • You ask for help when you need it.

  • You are more comfortable helping others.

  •  You are unwilling to request help, even when you really need it.

  • You are upset when you are unable to help someone you know really needs it.
You can benefit by helping and supporting others to pursue their dreams. Conversely, you can benefit when you share your dream with others who could help you attain it. Feel comfortable knowing that others will be eager to help you when you need it.
  • Appreciate that many people will welcome your help and wish to return the favor.

  • Use your many strengths and talents to help others to maneuver through life’s challenges.

  • Many of us feel an obligation to help those who are less successful than we are.
How do you feel about asking for help from others? Do you believe improving this skill would be useful?

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Be Somebody

The following phrase is taped to the back of my desk name plate and has been for many years.  It has worked for me. Today I want to share it with you.

As a card-carrying procrastinator and poor multi-tasker, I sometimes struggle to take this direction. I am continually amazed at what I’m able to accomplish when I faithfully follow this sage guidance. How about you? Are you one of the fortunate people who consistently set priorities and focus on performing one task at a time? Soar Without Limits suggests several tools you can use to help you stay on point, so your dream doesn’t fade into the clouds.

It isn’t enough for you to strive to be somebody, you make your mark when you help others feel like they are somebody. Many of the blogs on this site suggest ways you can make that happen. I encourage you to take advantage of the opportunity to read them. You’ll find ideas you can use to serve others. You discover important things about yourself when you serve others. It makes no difference who you are or what you are, you can practice selfless acts for others.

Blame Game

This is one of the most destructive traits we can have. The blame game starts when we blame others for something bad or unfortunate rather than attempting to seek a solution. That includes blaming ourselves when something goes wrong. Reasons for this may include seeing ourselves as inept, foolish, or irresponsible. Looking at the other side we may be inclined to believe our successes are due to external factors, such as fate, chance or luck. 

Here are 5 reasons we play the blame game.

  • Blame is a convenient defense mechanism.  Blame helps us keep our sense of self-esteem by avoiding awareness of our own flaws or failings.

  • We use blame to attack someone. This is a destructive way to attempt to resolve an issue. 

  • We tend to make irrational judgments.  The reasons for our own and other people's behavior may not be apparent.

  • Blaming something or someone else is easier than accepting responsibility. There’s less effort required to accept our role in a bad situation than admitting the fact that we're at fault.

  • People lie. It’s relatively easy to lie and blame someone else even though we know we’re at fault and hope we never get found out.

What's the cure? Responsibility.  When we take responsibility for our actions we end the blame game. We are accountable for our thoughts and actions, no one else. If you tend to play the blame game, I encourage you to try the responsibility game. I just bet you'll feel better and your relationships with others will improve.

Encouragement

Do you like the sound of the word encouragement? How does it sound in contrast to criticism? Think about how you react to encouragement. How do you feel when you are criticized? I contend that encouragement is a positive motivator. Criticism is a demotivator.

One day I witnessed the following scene. A child made a mess with his toy. His mother asked him to pick up the toys and put them in his toy box. The child did. Mom came by for the inspection. All the toys except two were in the box somewhat randomly.


What should Mom have said?

A. Johnny, there are two toys still on the floor and the box is still a mess.

B. Johnny, you did a great job picking up most of your toys. How about picking up the other two and stacking all your toys neatly in your toy box.

Ok where am I going with this? Well actually, two places.

First: If we want others to react to us in a positive way, is it best to encourage them to do the things they do well or criticize them for what we perceive them to be doing wrong? The key word in that sentence is “perceive” and I’ll let you think on that for a bit.

Second: How often do you encourage yourself to take the next step that could lead you to attaining your goal? Unfortunately, many of us “criticize” ourselves to the point of being counterproductive.

When we encourage others and ourselves to use our individual talents and skills in new and exciting ways, we set a tone for growth and learning. None of us got where we are today without a support system. I’m guessing that your support system was a team of encouragers. If your support system was anything like mine you had parents, teachers, siblings, your children, other family members, friends, fellow students, teammates, co-workers, superiors, pastors, and others as part of your support system.

Supportive people won’t always agree with you but will encouraged you. The key person in that system is you. Others can encourage you, but final analysis you must act on that encouragement. Let me encourage you to do something today that gets you closer to your dream.

Excuses

One of the most influential books I read was entitled No Excuses by Brian Tracy. When I first read Tracy’s excellent text, I realized how many excuses I made for not getting things done. How easy it was to blame someone or something else for my lack of direction and focus.

Two of Tracy’s “21 Ways to Achieve Lasting Happiness and Success” stood out for me – character and responsibility. These two seemed to encompass the other 19.

Let’s take a moment and learn from Tracy. First, let’s look at character. Being completely honest with ourselves is fundamental to our integrity. How can we be honest with others if we are not honest with ourselves first? He points out that it takes tremendous self-discipline to always “do the right thing”.

Integrity applies to relationships with our families, friends, business associates and yes, even to strangers. Tracy suggests that our character psychology is rooted in three key attributes of our personality:

  • Self-ideal which refers to our values, virtues, ideals, goals, and aspirations.

  • Self-image is how we see and think of ourselves.

  • Self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves.
Second is responsibility. I was raised to be responsible for my thoughts and actions. As I reflect, I think I did a fairly good job of being responsible. But now I realize there were thoughts and actions which I could have addressed a bit more responsibly. It was a portion of J. Paul Getty’s quote Tracy used that made me ‘stop and take stock’. I paraphrase, “Individuals who want to succeed must appreciate the might and force of habit. They must be quick to break those habits that can break them – and hasten to adopt habits that help them achieve the success they desire.”

Committing to make the changes required to break old habits and replace them with new ones is a challenge that most of us face.

Frustration

 Have you ever been frustrated?  Today’s fast paced world with conflicting demands on our time can result in our feeling frustrated and stressed. This saps our energy and reduces our ability to be productive members of society. 

I recall that it was popular to break stress down into good stress and bad stress. Baloney!! Stress is stress and there is nothing good about it. I go along with stress is a killer.

Today you can chew a tablet and, it’s claimed, all your stress will dissipate into thin air. You will develop a positive mind and experience a calming effect. That may work for some to address the symptoms of their stress. However, until we learn how to deal with the causes of stress and implement processes which remove the stress and frustration we experience occasionally or frequently, we haven’t totally addressed the physiological or psychological causes of our frustration.

Now I’m not against taking a pill to help mitigate the ills we encounter on our life’s journey.  I take a few myself.  Heck, I used to be the Maalox king. If your doctor has prescribed medication for you, then by all means follow their advice.

What I am suggesting is that there are non-medicinal methods many of us can employ in our everyday life to reduce the primary causes of stress. The Six Step “SOAR Without limits” methodology directly addresses the causes of stress and suggests many ways most of us can manage these causes without the mask of a chewable tablet.

Happiness

 One Christmas my wonderful wife gave me the card shown here. I put it on my desk and pondered over it. While I deeply appreciated the message, I knew that one cannot make another person happy. So where does happiness come from? Is it inherited? Is it a skill that can be learned? Is it a decision?

Happiness is a state of mind that comes from within us. Happiness is not created from external sources despite all the advertising to the contrary. Happiness is not for sale nor can it be purchased. Happiness is not dictated by our environment and it is not hereditary. Sometimes we confuse happiness with pleasure. While pleasure may be an enjoyable pursuit it is not happiness. Pleasure may enhance our happiness, but it doesn’t create it.

So here is your assignment for today. Take your happiness temperature. Put a check where you are today. Then put a circle where you’d like to be.

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Now make a serious commitment to identify what is getting in the way of your achieving your circle and to work on replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones.

Let’s get back to my Christmas card. As I kept pondering, I realized she is the most quietly positive person I know. I also concluded that while each of us cannot make someone else happy we can influence the degree of their happiness by the way we treat them and interact with them. The card was an indication that, at least, I wasn’t getting in the way of her happiness. Oh, by the way, I might be the happiest person in our household – she never gets in the way of my happiness.

I’m going to suggest that a positive approach to living is critical to achieving happiness. Each day, maybe each moment, decide to be happy or unhappy.

I welcome your comments and suggestions for future articles.

HOPE

 Hope is the belief that the events and circumstance in our life will have positive outcomes. Hope adds optimism to a dream.
Can hope transform your life? How do we create hope from despair? Despair is the complete absence of hope. Hope allows us to recover from our setbacks and become successful.

There were times in my life when I almost gave up hope. Thankfully, just a few. One relatively recent event stands out.

When the recession of 2008 occurred, I experienced masked despair. We had a thriving business that stopped thriving. Our business debt was off the charts. We were optimistic and had invested in considerable inventory. Business is cash flow. Without it survival is tenuous. One morning I woke up and said out loud, ‘enough is enough – let’s go to work’. After a while hope began to return.

I put the SOAR process to work. My desired outcome was simple - find a way to manage our debt without losing our assets.

I contacted each supplier and worked out a payment plan - I didn't wait for them to contact me. Those 30 and 60-day accounts stretched into 12 and 24-month accounts. Not one creditor added any interest or penalties. Situations occurred. When the time came that I couldn't make the next payment in full, I let them know in advance and we worked out a newarrangement.

We phoned and or emailed each of our prior customers to let them know that we had moved the business into our home and they were welcome to visit us there by appointment. Many of them came back to us. Especially our long arm quilting customers. Naturally, our customer base suffered since we lost walk in customers. You know, the difference between breakeven and a profit.

faith hope and love The short version is that it took a few years, with a lot of belt tightening and developing other sources of income, to get our credit ratings back to excellent. Now our mailbox is full of credit offers instead of past due statements.

Shane J Lopez in his book "Making Hope Happen" shares many similar and more dramatic stories of hope. I was drawn to the title since I have "Make It Happen" slogans around my office.

Visualize your desired outcome. What does it look like to bring your hope to reality? What are you doing to make it happen? What are you feeling? Who do you see helping you get where you want to be?

Faith, hope, and love. When we lose hope, we can lose faith. Faith sustains many of us through difficult times. When you find yourself questioning your faith and hope, turn to love - “Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (Corinthians 13:7) Hope will happen when you let love in.

May the future be filled with eternal hope for you and your loved ones.

Ready to “Make Hope Happen”?

Ignite Your Passion

Are you ready to do what you love? Imagine the life you want to enjoy. Look at a picture of the way you navigate your normal days. Identify the qualities in those scenarios that would make your ideal life happen. Passion is a powerful or compelling emotion or feeling. Examine your inner truth. What is it saying to you?

Our secret passion and purpose is within us. Remove any confusing thoughts you may have. Discard the negative attitudes and behaviors you may have and ignite the spark within you.

As we get older we may tend to avoid taking risks. In reality we should do the opposite. We need to take advantage of any second and third chances we get in life.

Living a passion-filled life is not only possible, it’s expected. Get curious about what thoughts generate your fears and how you react to them. What fears are causing you not to enjoy life? Begin cultivating those thoughts that will remove your fears right now.

Discover paths that lead you to your desired outcome.  Create a mindset that transforms insufficiency to abundance. What inspires you? Open your eyes and take a leap.

Live boldly.What passions do you have? Perhaps they include:

  • Have fun in all you do.

  • Be creative in work and personal activities.

  • Share your gifts with others and accept the gifts of others.

  • Develop meaningful relationships and friendships.

  • Enjoy working on your dreams with ease and comfort.
Want to create your list? I recommend the book The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose by Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood.

Whenever you feel fear, switch it to gratitude. Put any fears you may have in the rear-view mirror and keep looking through the windshield to your road ahead. Trust your heart and always do what resonates with you.

If you’re still reading this article, I hope you’re ready to take another step forward. Focus in the now, you realize that everything is how it is. So, do it your way!


Invest in You

Welcome to today. Reflect on what you accomplished this past year. Ready to do better?  Yes?  That's the spirit. Okay! What are your desired outcomes for the next two or three months? You can focus on future utcomes later.

Let's look at some steps you can take to move forward.

  • What new areas of learning do you want to explore? What you think about expands you.

  • What constraints do you need to overcome?

  • Make quiet time for yourself and look inward.

  • Interact with others.

  • Want to generate and/or test new ideas? Organize a focus group of 4 to 5 people interested in helping you.

  • Make a compelling argument to complete your task.

  • Surprise yourself with accomplishments and contributions beyond your perceived boundaries.

Power of One

Can one person really change the world? It is very rare that one person acting alone can change the world. While many of us might not be able to change the world, many of us can affect change in our own limited sphere of the world. We need to constantly reexamine our actions to affect change. Many of us are complacent in or own little universe that we miss opportunities to have a far more reaching influence on world.

With today's technology an idea can spread at the speed of light (slightly faster than a wild fire). These ideas can be helpful or a deterrent to progress. Ideas take root in physical or technological actions. Usually the power of one manifests itself in inspiration. The ability to inspire others to take up a cause can change the world (Martin Luther King). Someone who can reach out to others in a way that can change circumstances, or an entire life can change the world. (Thomas Edison). You can make a difference.

Possibly someone has changed your life or how you perceive life. If so, you are acting under the guidance of the power of one. Whether your influence impacts one or many, you are exhibiting the power of one in a profound and meaningful way.

Perhaps you have read the Smile Power blog on this site. One strategic smile to a person may help them through some trying times. Life's journey can have some rough spots and we all must learn how to maneuver over, under, around, or through these tough times. It helps to have someone give you a lift to get past those times and so you can refocus on the good times we experience.

I Want You

So yes, you have the power of one to change the world today.
  • Help heal the hurting.

  • Perform a targeted or random act of kindness.

  • Let someone you love, or not, know you care for them.

  • Be there listening silently when someone needs to vent.

  • Set a positive example and others will follow.

  • Be an effective leader when the situation requires it.

  • Be a good follower when the situation requires it.

Today, be somebody for someone else.

Release Your Energy

Release the energy within you. Unlock your full potential. You can tap into skills and talents that may be buried in your subconscious. Learn and discover your hidden assets.

Here's how:

  • Think outside the box. Get out of your comfort zone. 

  • Don't overthink ideas, move onto action.

  • Accept learning as a lifelong process.

  • Explore multiple approaches to learning.  Use all your senses.

  • Accept change as a positive force.  Personal growth requires change.

  • Embrace the practice of failure, thoughts and actions that don't succeed until they do.

Rumors

Rumors can destroy relationships and careers. Rumors involve a statement whose veracity is not quickly or ever confirmed. Getting to the facts of a situation can be a daunting task at times. Many rumors have their foundation in misinformation" (simply false) and "disinformation" (deliberately false). Rumors are especially difficult to confirm if the original or later versions were based on deliberate untruths.

While in the past most rumors were transmitted by “word of mouth”, in today’s electronic world there are many potential vehicles to transmit rumors in high volume and at the speed of light. Many of the root sources are hidden from our view. I wish I could share some profound knowledge on how to address the rumor mill phenomenon. But I can’t. I will share that my communication style is to try to identify the source, it may cover a few mile markers on the communication trail, and then to attempt to clarify the situation. Then there are other times when I consider the source and move on.

Depending on your communication style, you may or not be comfortable confronting the source of the rumor. I know several individuals who internalize the effects of rumors to the detriment of their health and possible relationships.

Perpetuating rumors is as unprofessional as initiating them. Unfortunately, I have witnessed the loss of jobs and the destruction of careers. Sadly, the organization leaders were just as accountable for the rumor and the resultant action as the person who started the rumor.

I trust it goes without saying, but just in case it doesn’t, you should never initiate or facilitate a rumor. Get your facts before you communicate. That was the first lesson the editor of my town newspaper ingrained in me when I was a high school sports reporter.

I’d be interested to know how you deal with rumors.

Self-Talk

Many years ago, I read a book on the power of Self-talk and dismissed it as an interesting but not a practical approach to get things done. Thankfully, I rethought the process and found it to be an effective tool to change my behavior.

These inner thoughts are even more effective when written down and said out loud multiple times during the day. Unfortunately, Self-talk can be destructive as well as constructive. Naturally, I recommend the constructive forms of self-talk.  They are more beneficial when phrased in positive terms. Positive Self-talk should be statements that are insightful, thoughtfully constructed, self-reflective, and motivational.  See yourself as capable of accomplishing your desired outcomes. 

"Today I will greet people warmly."

"Today I will stand up for principles I believe are right."

"Today I am going to spend at least 45 minutes on a writing project."

“Today I will be grateful for my family and friends”

“Today I will repair a relationship.”

“I am good at what I do, I give myself credit for completing an assignment."

"I lead an effective and talented team"

"I am going to carefully consider options before making an important decision"

"I accept myself as who I am.”

"I am a happy person."

“I will ensure my behavior reflects my values.”

Positive Self-talk will improve your self-esteem. You will feel good about yourself and it will show in your interaction with others. Let us know what statements have worked for you.

Smile Power

Your body language can tell more about you than your words. One of your most powerful personal tools is your smile. Your smile must be genuine. For your smile to be genuine, your brain must be engaged in a positive activity. If you have negative thoughts they will sneak into your facial expression. Your smile is the most positive emotional message you convey to your audience. Smiling is a learned process. You can learn to smile in an authentic way.

When we see or experience a pleasant event, a neuronal signal is sent from our brain to the cranial muscle which in turn sends the signal to the muscles in our face. Once the smiling muscles in our face contract, a positive feedback loop is initiated that returns to the brain and reinforces our feeling of pleasure.

Two potential muscles are activated when we smile. One is the social muscle and the other is the sincerity muscle. Our brain easily differentiate between what’s real and what’s fake. Unfortunately, research shows us it is very difficult for us to distinguish any smile as fake or real.

Why is it important to know what does and what doesn’t trigger us to understand smiling? Here are some thoughts.

Smiling can impact our well-being, degree of success, attractiveness, and happiness. When we smile our brain keeps a record of our smiles. Based on recent studies, smiling reduces the feeling of stress on our body and helps us create increasingly positive emotions. A contagious, genuine smile draws us to people and can alter our disposition.

Here are three actions you can take to create a smile that will help you generate a more powerful life style.

  • Visualize a pleasant experience. You can do this just before engaging in a communication activity or whenever your mood moves you.

  • Look in a mirror and practice your smile. When you feel happy and relaxed your smile will be authentic.

  • Feel comfortable with your smile. The more comfortable you become the more your smile will enhance your appearance naturally.

So, release the endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin in your body and lower your blood pressure. Stay positive and smile your way to success. Let me know what you think.

Targeted Kindness

When I receive emails from our Daughter Lisa, I get to see her ending line.

"Be Kind Whenever Possible. It Is Always Possible. " Don't you just love the Dalai Lama quote?

I've done some critical thinking about this and have come to the conclusion that this is what being human is all about.

Lisa takes this a step further and applies this philosophy to the attention and care she gives her beloved animal friends.

We're reminded to commit random acts of kindness. How about targeted acts of kindness? Sometimes we forget to be kind to the ones that mean the most to us. It is this human quality that connects us to others. When we practice being sympathetic and compassionate to others we strengthen our bond with them. We show that we care for them and are considerate of their thoughts and actions.

A targeted act of kindness occurred in April 2015. One of our beloved family members is learning to live with Parkinson's. Another of our family members organized a 185 mile bike - a-thon through the Michael Fox Foundation to raise $5,500 ($30 per mile) and they exceeded their goal. Even those of us who didn't pedal were able to participate. That, my friends, is a targeted act of kindness.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia

…"all of which have the potential to turn a life around." How about that? Can you recall when someone committed an act of kindness for you? How did you feel? If it didn't turn your life around, did it move the dial toward helping you feel a little better that day? Don't underestimate what an act of kindness can do for another. Oh, by the way, I bet you'll feel exhilarated too.


In addition to committing random acts of kindness, let's work on committing targeted acts of kindness. It'll be good for the soul.

Thank You

These two small words can have a large impact toward achieving your desired outcomes. Recently, while visiting a county club for dinner I overheard a group discuss this topic during their dinner.  One of the individuals was commenting how this simple phrase seems to be forgotten by many these days.  How hard is it to acknowledge this to someone who has taken their time and/or resources to provide you with some kindness or favor?

Holding open a door, sending an email with a piece of helpful information, giving a gift of appreciation, recognizing an accomplishment, making a personal introduction, acknowledging an idea, supporting your vision or dream, or offering some other courtesy are opportunities to say, “Thank You”.

To finish my dinner story, one of the dinner patrons left the table and the room (I watched him go out the door) without a Thank You to his server.

A verbal “Thank You” is just one way of showing your appreciation.  Thank you notes and/or small gifts are always a good thought starter. As you pursue your dreams many people will help you. When you want to say or write thank you, it's helpful to choose the right words. Please remember to show your appreciation to someone today.   Perhaps even a letter of appreciation may be in order. These are especially pertinent when a job or a love interest is at stake.

Thank you   Oh by the way, You’re Welcome works too.    


What If

Yes!  You are good enough. You do not have to live for anyone but yourself. If you want to change and grow that is your decision, not anyone else's. If you decide you want to learn a new skill, change your behavior, develop a new talent, and/or study a new subject that obligation is to you and you alone. You can seek help from others but not change because they want you to. You are good enough.


If you decide you want to improve some aspect of your life, here are a few suggestions to consider.

  • Visualize your desired outcome. See it happen in your mind's eye.

  • Write it down and post it where you will see it every day.

  • Commit the time needed to accomplish your objective. Don't procrastinate.

  • Seek help and encouragement when needed.

  • Enjoy your success

If you decide you want to shed an old habit and/or just create a new habit, then make it happen.

Would You, or Will You?

The words would and will have very different meanings. Knowing when to use the terms correctly is important if you expect to communicate effectively. Do you think in terms of would or will? If you intend to make your dreams happen, think and act in terms of will,  to get you there faster.

Both would and will are auxiliary verbs. Can/could, may/might, shall/should and must are also auxiliary verbs. They have no meaning by themselves. They perform as helpers and add meaning to other verbs.

Would has a variety of meanings, such as: invitations, requests, asking permission, preferences, deciding, and imaging.

Would you questions almost always fail to evoke meaningful information.

  • Request: Invitation: Would you read my book Sunday?

  • Request: Would you be willing to write a review of my book?

  • Permission: Would I be able to leave early today?

  • Preferences: Would you like the red or green pen?

  • Deciding: Would Monday at 2 pm be a good time to meet?

  • Imaging: If I knew how to read, I'd read your pontifications.
Will is a definitive statement, indicating a certainty that the action will happen in the future. Will you questions get to the truth immediately. (Will you attend my Writers Circle Thursday?)

Will is used to refer to the future, quick decisions, promises, offers, probability, and conditions.
  • Future: I will write a pontification this afternoon.

  • Decision: I will eat less this week instead of walking.

  • Promise: l will get the book from the library tomorrow.

  • Offer: I will edit your pontification after dinner.

  • Probability: I’ll bet this book will sell.

  • Condition: If you buy my book, I'll buy your lunch.
You can would yourself throughout life. Until you will yourself, it's difficult to be certain of anything.

Ask for Help

Are you one of those individuals who can do it all by yourself? If so, congratulations.


Early in my life I used to be like you. Even when I participated in team sports, I felt it was up to me to ensure the team would win. Then one day I learned a very valuable lesson, that you have more power and influence when you receive help from others and, in turn, offer to help others. If you have read any of my other pontification, you have an inkling that I am a strong proponent of teamwork.

When would you profit from some else’s help? Is it finding a new job? Writing a book? Getting over a loss? Having a sensitive conversation with a co-worker? Moving to a new home? Help with dishes? Whether it is a major event or a simple task, it’s usually more fun and efficient when you have help. Different personality types feel very differently about asking for help.

You may fall into one of the following categories.
  • You ask for help when you need it.

  • You are more comfortable helping others.

  •  You are unwilling to request help, even when you really need it.

  • You are upset when you are unable to help someone you know really needs it.
You can benefit by helping and supporting others to pursue their dreams. Conversely, you can benefit when you share your dream with others who could help you attain it. Feel comfortable knowing that others will be eager to help you when you need it.
  • Appreciate that many people will welcome your help and wish to return the favor.

  • Use your many strengths and talents to help others to maneuver through life’s challenges.

  • Many of us feel an obligation to help those who are less successful than we are.
How do you feel about asking for help from others? Do you believe improving this skill would be useful?



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